The Things We Delay
Visionary, avoidance is still a message.
Visionary,
This week didn’t begin with momentum.
It began with stillness… the kind that doesn’t feel peaceful.
The kind where your mind is loud, your body is tired, and nothing you try to touch turns into focus. I sat with anxiety for most of the start of this week, not forcing it, but not fully understanding it either. Just… there.
No breakthroughs. No productivity streaks. Just presence, whether I liked it or not.
And then Wednesday came.
I had a day trip planned, one I had been quietly carrying for far longer than I wanted to admit. I went to the funeral home to transfer my mum’s ashes into her new urn. Two years later.
Even writing that feels heavy.
I remember feeling almost embarrassed walking in, knowing I still had her in the original box and tote bag they gave me. Like I had somehow done something wrong by not being ready sooner.
But the moment I stepped inside, everything shifted.
There was no judgment. No pressure. Just care.
Alicia and the team at Omega Funerals handled everything with such softness and respect, from start to finish. And for the first time in a long time, I felt fully in the moment. Not rushing it. Not avoiding it. Just… there with her.
Now she sits in a sunlit window, in a beautiful inscribed urn, surrounded by light. The jewels catch the sun and sparkle in a way that feels so her. It’s peaceful. It’s right.
And maybe the timing wasn’t wrong after all.
Later in the week, I did something else I had been putting off.
I went to see my nan.
It had been over a year. Not because of distance, not because of conflict, but because of something I hadn’t fully said out loud until now.
I think I’ve been scared to get close to anyone who can leave.
That truth sat heavy for a moment.
But when I saw her, none of that mattered in the way I thought it would. She is 96, frail, still full of warmth. Kissing my face, squeezing my hands, asking a thousand questions like only she can.
It was simple. It was loving. It was enough.
And it reminded me that avoidance doesn’t protect us the way we think it does.
Sometimes it just delays the moments we actually need.
By Friday, something shifted again.
Build mode came back.
Not forced, not scheduled, just… returned.
I started working on components for my new website, slowly stepping away from Shopify, or at least asking for a separation. It felt aligned in a way I hadn’t expected.
Inside the Collaboration Room, I made some upgrades too. There’s now an offer board where members can share what they’re building, a layer of gamification to bring a bit more energy into the space, and a prompt vault so nothing gets lost in the scroll.
Small systems, but meaningful ones.
Then I got a little ambitious.
I set up a task using Claude CoWork to go into Skool, update the classroom drip settings across modules, extract all content, convert it into markdown, and organise it into a clean folder structure for my new favourite thing; Obsidian.
Very me.
Claude said, “I got this.”
It opened the classroom. Found the right module. Clicked around confidently.
And then… it pressed delete.
Not drip.
Delete.
The scream I let out at that time of the morning? Unmatched.
Thankfully, Skool asks for confirmation, so nothing was lost. Claude immediately backed out like, “I accidentally clicked delete, cancelling immediately!” and I just had to sit there for a second and breathe.
After using up two sessions, a few extra coins (gratefully gifted by Claude, check your account if you haven’t claimed yours), and a bit more guidance from me, the task landed at about 85 percent perfection.
Which, honestly, is a win.
Because the real lesson wasn’t about the task.
It was about direction.
Even the smartest systems still need clarity.
And maybe that’s the thread through this whole week.
Not everything we delay is laziness.
Some of it is grief. Some of it is fear. Some of it is not feeling ready to face what’s on the other side.
But when we do face it, even gently, even imperfectly, something shifts.
Energy returns. Clarity returns. Movement returns.
Not all at once.
But enough.
So let me ask you, Visionary:
What have you been putting off… that might actually be waiting to free you?
Not to overwhelm you.
Not to rush you.
But to meet you, when you’re ready.
If you’re feeling the shift into a new quarter, the Collaboration Room has been quietly evolving behind the scenes. New features, more structure, and more space for you to build at your own pace.
The Collaboration Room is exclusively for VIP tier members and because of that prices will be rising this week.
With the upcoming move from a free tier to a 7-day trial model inside Visionary in Progress, it’s becoming even easier to step in and explore without pressure.
No noise. No rush. Just room.
Muse
Prompt:
A radiant Black woman standing in a softly lit, sun-drenched room, wearing a flowing silk gown in warm cream and deep navy tones, subtle gold jewellery catching the light, surrounded by delicate glass ornaments and crystals reflecting sunlight across the walls, cinematic editorial style, bright and uplifting atmosphere, clean composition, luxurious textures, designed to feel like wall art or a journal cover, high detail, soft glow, calm and powerful presence
Journal Prompt (for your favourite LLM):
Help me identify what I have been avoiding in my life or business, and why.
Guide me through:
3 things I’ve been putting off, even if they seem small
What emotions or fears might be underneath each one
Whether avoiding them is protecting me or holding me back
One gentle, realistic next step for each, based on my current energy
A simple way to review my current subscriptions, commitments, or systems and decide what to cancel, keep, or simplify for this new quarter
Keep the tone supportive, honest, and non-judgmental. Help me move forward without pressure.